Comments on: Criticism & Confidence: A Personal Story Part 1 http://mona.myartbliss.com/post/criticism-confidence-a-personal-story-part-1 Art, Animals, and the Creative Experience Sun, 20 May 2012 11:15:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 By: MonaMajorowicz http://mona.myartbliss.com/post/criticism-confidence-a-personal-story-part-1#comment-1405 MonaMajorowicz Thu, 30 Oct 2008 21:15:48 +0000 http://mona.myartbliss.com/post/criticism-confidence-a-personal-story-part-1#comment-1405 Yes, I think when next we see each other I'll mention it. I don't think she is a regular reader of the blog, so she may not see the articles. In fact part of the reason I held off was I thought our paths might cross before now and I'd mention it. But we haven't yet got together. If I was looking for confrontation I would have said something in the moment, because a few things did roll through my head during it all. Hopefully we will be fine in the end. Like I said I really am not too bothered about it now. Thanks for trying to guide me into NOT starting a big fight though, :) I kinda like the new banner also. Not sure how well I'll keep up with changing it for the seasons though. You'll see the whole photo tomorrow for my Halloween post. Yes, I think when next we see each other I’ll mention it. I don’t think she is a regular reader of the blog, so she may not see the articles. In fact part of the reason I held off was I thought our paths might cross before now and I’d mention it. But we haven’t yet got together.

If I was looking for confrontation I would have said something in the moment, because a few things did roll through my head during it all. Hopefully we will be fine in the end. Like I said I really am not too bothered about it now. Thanks for trying to guide me into NOT starting a big fight though, :)

I kinda like the new banner also. Not sure how well I’ll keep up with changing it for the seasons though. You’ll see the whole photo tomorrow for my Halloween post.

]]> By: Angela Finney http://mona.myartbliss.com/post/criticism-confidence-a-personal-story-part-1#comment-1394 Angela Finney Thu, 30 Oct 2008 15:53:46 +0000 http://mona.myartbliss.com/post/criticism-confidence-a-personal-story-part-1#comment-1394 P.S. Like the Halloween photo banner here. P.S. Like the Halloween photo banner here.

]]> By: Angela Finney http://mona.myartbliss.com/post/criticism-confidence-a-personal-story-part-1#comment-1393 Angela Finney Thu, 30 Oct 2008 15:52:20 +0000 http://mona.myartbliss.com/post/criticism-confidence-a-personal-story-part-1#comment-1393 Mona -- what a shame. Since this person reads your blog, she is going to know how you feel -- which I think is very important in this situation. Otherwise, I would be urging you to spend some of your energy thinking about having a talk with her -- which still may be in order. I mean these are my feelings and why talk, not confrontation. (The social worker in me.) I am aware that you were not 100% happy with your background in the Colton painting. I agree with your own analysis -- but think the painting was very far from ruined. I think this overboard criticism is indicative of jealousy -- and alot of it. You have hinted at having serious personal difficulties -- a friend would also be watching out for you, not knocking you down during such a time. Angela Mona — what a shame. Since this person reads your blog, she is going to know how you feel — which I think is very important in this situation. Otherwise, I would be urging you to spend some of your energy thinking about having a talk with her — which still may be in order. I mean these are my feelings and why talk, not confrontation. (The social worker in me.)

I am aware that you were not 100% happy with your background in the Colton painting. I agree with your own analysis — but think the painting was very far from ruined. I think this overboard criticism is indicative of jealousy — and alot of it. You have hinted at having serious personal difficulties — a friend would also be watching out for you, not knocking you down during such a time. Angela

]]> By: Undaunted http://mona.myartbliss.com/post/criticism-confidence-a-personal-story-part-1#comment-1391 Undaunted Thu, 30 Oct 2008 05:22:35 +0000 http://mona.myartbliss.com/post/criticism-confidence-a-personal-story-part-1#comment-1391 I know what you mean - I find criticism easier to take from family, but only because I'm less likely to take any notice! :P It's easier to tell them to shut up as well! :D I know what you mean - I find criticism easier to take from family, but only because I’m less likely to take any notice! :P It’s easier to tell them to shut up as well! :D

]]> By: MonaMajorowicz http://mona.myartbliss.com/post/criticism-confidence-a-personal-story-part-1#comment-1390 MonaMajorowicz Thu, 30 Oct 2008 02:36:13 +0000 http://mona.myartbliss.com/post/criticism-confidence-a-personal-story-part-1#comment-1390 Thanks Undaunted. Actually it seemed longer but 15 minutes is fair. Part of that time was spent bringing up my blog on the computer so she could illustrate her point. She didn't really give any hard examples, the jist was just as I said in the post. She thought it started out good and promptly went downhill. Ending in a "Oh No! You ruined it!" (that is a quote) when I put in the background. My art group is really like family. We have known each other for over a decade. So it didn't bother me much that it was done in front of them. It would have though in any other situation. Okay, I haven't let go of "all" my negative feeling, but primarily I really am just surprised that it happened at this point. Thanks Undaunted. Actually it seemed longer but 15 minutes is fair. Part of that time was spent bringing up my blog on the computer so she could illustrate her point.

She didn’t really give any hard examples, the jist was just as I said in the post. She thought it started out good and promptly went downhill. Ending in a “Oh No! You ruined it!” (that is a quote) when I put in the background.

My art group is really like family. We have known each other for over a decade. So it didn’t bother me much that it was done in front of them. It would have though in any other situation.

Okay, I haven’t let go of “all” my negative feeling, but primarily I really am just surprised that it happened at this point.

]]> By: Undaunted http://mona.myartbliss.com/post/criticism-confidence-a-personal-story-part-1#comment-1388 Undaunted Wed, 29 Oct 2008 23:00:53 +0000 http://mona.myartbliss.com/post/criticism-confidence-a-personal-story-part-1#comment-1388 Oh Mona. I am so sorry. 15 minutes?? Ok, no flaming, but how on earth can a person criticise a painting for a full 15 minutes?? I mean once you've said "The composition is wrong, the colours are wrong, the brush strokes are wrong, the shading is wrong, the muscle tone is wrong, and the whole thing is wrong" what is there left to say?? Not that I believe any of that - I thought it was a beautiful painting, however meaningless that may sound ;) 15 minutes of that would have been hard on the strongest of people, and it's worse that it was in front of others. You're an amazing woman to have let go of all negative feelings about it. Oh Mona. I am so sorry. 15 minutes?? Ok, no flaming, but how on earth can a person criticise a painting for a full 15 minutes?? I mean once you’ve said “The composition is wrong, the colours are wrong, the brush strokes are wrong, the shading is wrong, the muscle tone is wrong, and the whole thing is wrong” what is there left to say?? Not that I believe any of that - I thought it was a beautiful painting, however meaningless that may sound ;)

15 minutes of that would have been hard on the strongest of people, and it’s worse that it was in front of others. You’re an amazing woman to have let go of all negative feelings about it.

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